People often wonder at the onset of therapy, will this take away my pain or help alleviate my problems; however these are questions that can’t be honestly answered at the beginning of a psychotherapy treatment. What we can know is that if you undertake the work of therapy, you will leave the treatment a different person, a person you like more because you will be more of who you truly are. This means that the important question to ask at the onset of a treatment is can the therapist help the client find that truth in the collaborative work they do together.
Renowned poet T.S. Eliot relied on vivid language to shock the reader out of the stupor of numbness and predictability. His work highlights what feels broken and dead while also waking the mind to unexpected significance and the redemption of suffering, a surprise that both disturbs and opens the imagination to new meaning and new possibilities. In The Waste Land, Eliot pushes the reader from the comfort of familiarity as he notes: “You cannot say, or guess, for you know only a heap of broken images.”
Psychological suffering, like Eliot’s waste land, places you amidst this heap of broken images: cherished relationships, creative aspirations, passionate pursuits, joyous memories all lose the valuable meaning they once carried. The heart grows impoverished, and one yearns for something different. However, the longing for change is often overpowered by one’s fearful holding to familiarity, despite the great cost of repeating destructive behavior. We choose numbness and predictability over the challenge and disturbance of transformation.
As a psychotherapist, my style involves careful listening and direct communication about your struggles. We work together to create a mutual understanding of the patterns that play out in your relationships, your emotional life, your dreams, and your place in the world. I specialize in working with attachment issues and developmental trauma, depression, anxiety, behavioral and substance addictions, and sexuality. I have significant experience working with LGTBQ and gender non-conforming individuals. I offer a holistic approach that addresses individual, familial, and cultural/systemic, and spiritual dimensions of experience. I have a strong background in dream work and hold close to a faith in the healing that occurs when patient attention is afforded to the depths of experience. My passion for this work stems from helping people inhabit their life in a more embodied and meaningful way.
Choosing the right therapist is an important decision. To assist the process I offer a free phone consultation, which gives us an opportunity to see if I may be able to help you.